I’ve grown up a lot since I last wrote a reflection piece. To write a reflection article, you have to have made an important self-discovery or have had an epiphany of some sort. I have wanted to write for a while, but the words could never come outright. I could barely tell my best friend about these thoughts, until recently. I’m not sure why, but no words could fully describe what has been happening inside my little head of mine for the past several months. Sometimes it takes a while for the correct words to come out. A lot has changed in the world since I last reflected, as you can probably tell by the long introduction, so I have a rather lot to catch you upon.
So far this year, I have learned a lot about myself.
For one thing, I’m no longer afraid to let go of people and things that no longer serve a positive purpose in my life. Letting go is not easy, but sometimes it has to be done. Sometimes it’s not our own choice. Maybe we own a certain jacket for a couple of years, but then we move, and we no longer need a heavy winter jacket. Our life changes constantly, so why do we feel the need to keep clothes, things, and people in our lives that don’t fit our lives anymore? That coat at one time served a purpose, but it no longer does. Why do we hold on to coats that we don’t need anymore? For sentimental value? For the chance that we may someday travel to a cold place during winter? Do we hold on to things because we aren’t ready to let go?
I think all these questions come into play, but that last one is the hardest one to admit to ourselves. From my experience, we hold onto things because we aren’t ready to let go. That can be because maybe we are scared of change, or scared of forgetting it’s sentimental value, or maybe because you miss a person and that jacket reminds you of them. All of these are valid reasons, but they may not be the best way to cope. At least, I’ve learned that I have to cope differently to heal. I realized that sometimes things just don’t work out the way you imagined them to be, and that’s okay because something better will be right around the corner. You just have to believe and manifest that sh*t into the universe.
For me, the best way to cope with letting go of these things is to focus on myself, the people, and things around me that make my life great.
Here are some examples:
Drive around town with one of your best friends listening to Hannah Montana songs. (Highly recommend)
Go shopping, buy yourself a pair of jeans that you have needed for a while now.
Have self-care care and write out how you feel or talk to a friend if talking works better for you.
Focus on what you love. For example, I love creating content, whether it is writing, coloring, making graphics. It’s just what I love to do.
Take care of yourself whatever that means to you, whether that’s going to yoga, the gym, reading, talking. You are your own most important priority. In society, we sometimes forget that because we feel like we have to be people-pleasers, but other people shouldn’t be your top concern. You are your top concern and remember that.
All of these are great ways of coping.
At some point in life, we all have to get rid of the clothes that we outgrew or don’t need anymore. We have furniture that no longer fits in our new space, so we have to get rid of it. We all go through friend breakups and heartbreaks, where we have to let people go. It’s all part of life. I know I’m still young, and I know I have so much more to learn about relationships, life, taxes, and anything else that plays a role in the crazy roller coaster called life, but I know I’m ready to continue to grow.
Forever Always,
Emily
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